Now that photoshop (and tons of apps that use photoshop attributes) are so readily available to us we are taking the opportunity to make our social media pics look perfect………no correction…….better than perfect. I watched a lot of my friends using such apps while we are out and about at clubs, events, street fairs, etc. When I looked at the finished pics I was kicking myself that I didn’t find out about these apps sooner. Now I was stuck with tons of photos on Facebook that were untouched, therefore in my mind, I wasn’t looking as good as I possibly could. Especially since I am an actress. I need to look my best at all times right?
Well, I have actually had second thoughts about all of this. As I watch woman after woman wipe out every single thing on their face until it is smooth, adding lipstick and eyelashes, and changing skin tone…….one starts to wonder when will this stop? I recently attended a Hollywood party and there was a photographer who was snapping pics at a rapid pace. No time to make sure every hair was in place, gut sucked in, no time to strike a flattering pose. This guy didn’t care. He just snapped away. Yesterday he e-mailed me with a link to the photo gallery of the event and to my surprise I loved most of the shots of me. They looked very natural and it looked like I was having a great time. I bought two of them. One was a headshot, extreme closeup, and I liked it. After I downloaded it and saw the full effect (lines around my eyes, my lips not perfectly smooth, my skin tone uneven,) my first thought was that I could put this through an app and make it look stunning. But…….I took a chance and posted it on Facebook and Twitter completely untouched. Flaws and all. I just put it up there and let it be. I ended up completely forgetting about it but to my surprise it caused me to receive a record number of private Facebook messages. 67 in all. 67 men felt compelled to send me a message to let me know that I am sexy, gorgeous, pretty, beautiful, elegant, classy, desirable………I forgot all of the words, but I have to admit I’m a bit shocked. But very happy. Just proof positive that they didn’t even see the flaws. They saw a confident happy woman who they wanted to reach out to and associate with. Yes…….flaws are the best part people! ;)
It started out innocently enough. After a crazy mixed up day, over scheduled, many things going wrong……at the end of the day I decided to watch HBO before going to bed. I was going to watch old episodes of “Entourage” but I accidentally clicked on “Camp Erin - One Last Hug.” It had already started so I didn’t click it off…..I decided to give it a few minutes. It is a documentary on a grief camp for children called Camp Erin. It is located in Los Angeles. Watching each little kid get up in front of a group of people to talk about losing parents, siblings, etc……wow……it was very hard to watch.
Personally, I have lost so many people. Does it ever get easy to talk about those losses? No, it doesn’t. I am shocked to see tiny kids speak openly about losing their parents. It took me years to be able to talk about losing my Dad, Aunt, Uncles, friends, and the 7 babies I lost in miscarriages,( I lost all the babies in my fourth month of pregnancy and we could never figure out why I lost them.) Then Sarah. When all of these kids in the movie tell their story, describe their loss…….or don’t describe it because they don’t have the strength…….I can’t stop watching…….but I want to stop……it hurts too much.